10-Step Family Online Safety Checklist
The essentials, in plain English. Print it, stick it on the fridge, and work through it together — one step per week is fine.
- 1Set up every device together
Sit with your child the first time an account is created. Enable 2-step verification, set the account to private, and turn off location sharing by default.
- 2Agree screen-time in writing
Write down when devices go away (meals, bedtime, homework). A shared family agreement works better than surprise rules.
- 3Use strong, memorable passphrases
Three unrelated words plus a number and symbol. Never reuse a password. Use a password manager if you can.
- 4Turn on parental controls at the router
Router-level filtering catches every device on the wifi — phones, tablets, consoles and smart TVs. Free options exist from most UK ISPs.
- 5Review followers and friends monthly
Ask your child to walk you through who follows them. Anyone unknown, unfollow or block together — no blame.
- 6Know the tactics
Learn the five-stage grooming pattern (targeting, trust, isolation, secrecy, escalation) so you spot early signs.
- 7Have a safe-word for pickup
Agree a word your child can text if they need collecting with no questions asked. It removes the pressure to explain in the moment.
- 8Save the numbers before you need them
Childline 0800 1111 · NSPCC 0808 800 5000 · CEOP for online abuse · 999 for immediate danger. Store them in your child's phone.
- 9Talk about nudes before it happens
Explain that sharing under-18 nudes is illegal, that images can be removed (IWF Report Remove), and that they will never be in trouble for telling you.
- 10Check in — don't check up
Weekly, ask 'what's the best and worst thing that happened online this week?'. Regular low-stakes chat beats one big lecture.
Emergency numbers: 999 (immediate danger) · Childline 0800 1111 · NSPCC 0808 800 5000 · Samaritans 116 123.

